So, last week I heard a story about an
organization on our local college campus that, like every other organization,
does "getting to know you" activities before initiating new members.
I think icebreakers and group games are a great way to get to know potential
members. It’s also a great way for
potential members to decide if they genuinely want to join a group.
What concerns me was the nature of these
activities. I was only told about two of
them, so I’m sure some of the others are totally innocuous. The two I heard about, though, gave me some
cause for concern.
Activity 1 included pledges being blindfolded,
driven around campus, and dropped off at a previously unknown location (this
year, the cemetery) with the rest of the initiation class, and told to find
their way home.
Activity 2 paired potential new members with
members form the brother organization.
The brothers competed to create the best hairstyle on their
partner. Instead of styling their actual
hair, they used shaving cream as sculpting material.
As I’ve mentioned many times, I’m a member of
Sigma Alpha Iota. In addition to being a
member of the fraternity, I also serve as an advisor to the collegiate chapter
at U of I, and I oversaw 4 collegiate chapters during my term as a Province Officer
for the organization. SAI takes hazing
very seriously, and because of this, I’m pretty sensitive to the subject. We have a fairly strict hazing policy that
forbids “any action or
situation that recklessly or intentionally endangers mental or physical health
or any action taken or situation created which produces mental or physical
discomfort, embarrassment, harassment or ridicule.”
I’m sure my experiences in such a group are what set off the
alarms in my head the moment I heard “blindfolded”. I'm really sad that
these activities happened, but I’m especially sad they happened to mostly
freshman girls. These young women are looking for support and friendship,
and this is what they receive. When one
girl was told that sounded like hazing, her response was "but they didn't
yell at us, and no one got hurt!"
That broke
my heart. It also made me mad. I wish I could explain to that young woman
that hazing doesn’t always end up in injury or death. It isn’t limited to verbal abuse or alcohol consumption. It’s about stripping an individual of his or
her dignity.
The week
before these incidents occurred was National Hazing Prevention week, which adds
a whole new layer of frustration to the story, in my opinion. Hazingprevention.org is full of useful information on the subject.
It has a thorough definition of hazing, as well as the difference
between hazing and bullying. There are
all sorts of resources and ideas for activities. I highly suggest checking it out.
I have to
reiterate how happy I am to be in a fraternity that takes hazing very
seriously. I am so proud of my collegiate chapter advisees for being keenly aware that potential new members and members-in-training should be treated with respect.